Chapter 6
What a mind job!
"Nobody has made their millions by clicking keyboards bro."
The above was not a statement. It was put blankly to my husband by a good friend of his. Someone he thought he could always rely on. One of his Hombres. Looking back, I think his friend told him that out of concern. His friend is a Civil Engineer. He doesnt know what the Forex market is about nor has he seen Technical trading before.
My grandfather told me the same thing when I first tried explaining what I was doing to him. He is a self made man and for all intents and purposes he is one of the most successful person in my town in his generation and the generation after that.He retired rich. He said " if it was this easy to make money, no one would be going out to work on anything and everyone would be trading".
We have been conditioned from such a young age to work hard. Then we grow up and somewhere along the line we realise that its not only hard work but there was a host of other things like accepting that you had responsibilities like a young family or aging parents or an education loan that needs to be repaid. Our working environment or the training that went to preparing us for that environment completed the mind job or whatever was missed by our educational training.
You had to work hard. You had to be part of a process. You had to create something or add value to a process. End of 30 days and so many hours later you were rewarded with a paycheck minus your savings for your retirement fund and social security contribution. Now imagine you are trying to make money with no guarantees on returns, nor a monthly basic pay, overtime, any form of credit facility and no fixed time of work. Basically contra to whatever we have seen and grown up to be.
Most of them dismiss Forex or making money from any form of market very quickly because our minds are not conditioned to think and function that way. Our mentality of judging risk and having safety nets are so thoroughly drilled into us that its subconsciously done like breathing or our hearts beating. Do you know how it feels when you are loosing money because of a click of your mouse?
Your heart suddenly starts beating so fast. Your stomach churns especially when your trade is going against you, you have had two or three loosing trades in a row and currently if you cut your position you will loose another 5 thousand dollars. Suddenly you are no longer so Gung Ho!. You feel so restless and its like you are having the hangover of a lifetime. Trust me, the feeling is so bad. Loose 5 K USD in a matter of hours and your next trade will most probably be a bad one too if you cannot calm your nerves and condition your mind to accept your loss. All this takes practice and experience. That is why people who are successful in alot of things they do dismiss markets whatsoever with a quick push. They are the sort who play very safe and never take risks in their life or they have been dragged in before and lost money because they didnt know how to trade or for other reasons like greed etc.
With this being said, when we start trading the markets, especially with real money, we tend to make a lot of mistakes. Costly ones at that. Even when you are reasonably able to read the charts, once you enter a trade nothing is in your hands. Nothing other than cutting off the position with a loss. It takes alot of practice and the right type of practice to steady your mind and your hands. This is assuming that you were not damaged by your earlier sojourns into the market by yourself. Dont assume that everything you have learned out there without a guide about the markets will be a positive addition to your trading skills. Sometimes when you are teaching a trader who has been in the market for sometime is much more difficult because they keep going back to the things that they have learned before and its hard to let go even though those lessons are making them loose money.
Then you have other more deeper issues to consider. Are you naturally the impatient type?.
Do you like the feeling of taking a bet?. Maybe a little horses or some poker?. Black jack maybe. Could never resist the tables at the local join?. 4Digit betting?. Lotto.
Come on. Everyone loves to take a chance. Isnt that one of the reasons why we looked into the market in the first place?. Did you not take a chance thinking that by reading this article I might tell you some secret about trading that will help you make some money?
How often do you do it?. Does it give you a big rush when you win regardless of the amount but a win? In other words are you a gambler? IF YOU ARE THEN THIS IS NOT FOR YOU.
It all comes down to the same thing. WE ARE MENTALLY NOT TRAINED TO TRADE THE MARKETS. From a young age we are conditioned to do all the things contra to what you do when you trade. For some its even worst because they like taking risks. Huge risks and love the feeling that comes with it when it goes their way. Natural attraction to gambling. Cutting the position with 5 or 10 pips and having a big satisfactory grin that they got it from the market but holding on for 50 to 100s of pips as its going against them thinking by some miracle they can still profit from that position. Only to cut it with 20 or 30 times more loss then it should have been.
All this is contra to the term technical trading. Precise execution after analysis is complete and a good SL already picked after looking at the charts. Not looking at the charts after the entry and saying I thought it would go down, its suppose to go down but s**t it went up!.
If it was suppose to go down how come it went up?. It was suppose to go up but our minds convinced us that its going to go down. As I was saying earlier on and been repeating myself. WHAT A MIND JOB!!
So what do we do?. How do you fix these issues?. Can it be done?. What should I do?
I will be honest and admit I still have some of these issues. I use to hold for more when I was already in profit. Then I would regret it went against my trade or hit my SL at break even. I would swear that I should have taken the 30 or 40 pips that the market gave me instead of waiting for the 50. Then there were other times that I would cut with 30 or 35 only to have that position give me a hundred or more pips. I would still be cursing myself for being so impatient.
Have I done the mistake of holding a loosing trade when I should have cut it with a minimal loss?. Guilty as charged. Do I cut positions that then shoot back up the moment I cut it and give me a healthy profit? Been there done that.
Have I seen good entries but I dont take it thinking its going one way or another even though I see a good set up with a small SL?. Two or three hours later I swear at myself for missing such a good entry which currently is 90 pips profit in my demo? Hey I just did that before I sat to write this chapter. GBPUSD shot a hundred pips up. I saw the entry with about 15 pips SL but I thought it should fall so I didnt take it. As I said, "Trade what you see not what you think" or " See dont Observe". Simple statements. Needs a real big effort to be able to.
Does my stomach churn or my heart beat very hard when I trade these days? No. Not anymore. Do my trades bother me this days?. Sometimes they do especially the ones where I made silly mistakes but otherwise no.
Do I know that trading is for me? A 100% Do I think people can make their money by clicking key boards. No I dont think so anymore. I KNOW SO!
How did I change all that?
One word. LUMINOUSFX. My mentor.
The question and answer sessions that I have had with him. The hundreds of hours he has spent teaching me. The encouraging words he gives me. His account statements that he has shared with me occasionally. The excel chart that spells out the trading plan, spells out the SL, the risk we are taking and the number of lots that we should take per trade. All this helped me tremendously in overcoming my psychological fear and mental blocks.
Now my statement above says what Luminousfx did for me.
What did I do for myself? Ill put that in point form :-
1. I believed in the market. I convinced myself earlier on its possible to make money from it. I just needed to learn how.
2. I believed that my mentor could teach me how to trade with minimal risk and a healthy profit. I saw that for myself in his signals.
3. I always told myself that I am not seeing something. Always have it in you that you are not seeing something. Do not blame things that are not in your control. It only makes the situation worst. When my trade goes against me I never gave room for negative thoughts.
- I never think " Oh my mentor is hiding things from me. He is not teaching me all he knows"
- I think this is too hard and the market is too volatile to make a living out of it.
- I never let negativity creep in and create doubts. Even when my mini accounts have call margined and I had to top it up.
Again and again mind you.
- I kept trading and doing what was asked of me to the best of my abilities. I kept doing it again and again. I kept asking
questions and I still do. In short I never gave up.
Slowly but surely I think my mind is adopting to the demands of the market. I was and I still am being conditioned to the needs of the market. Do I still have issues?. Yes but its much better now. I only have issues when picking trades. Not after I enter a position. I think it will get better as I get more experienced. But I am happy to report that I have got out of the starting blues.
Do mistakes happen? Yes. Even experienced traders can make bad calls. After all we are trying to profit from future movements of the market and the best way to describe it is speculation. We try to see where the price is going to go. It is always risky.
The whole idea of technical trading and learning to trade is to refine it to almost a specialized art form.
I missed GBPUSD today but I still made 100 pips on EURUSD.
My market reading has improved tremendously. My psychological side of things needs more work.
You need to be ZEN when you are trading. You need to be balanced. Not be greedy and hold on for more pips, at the same time not to cut off too short or too early. Not to be impatient and cut off a trade that is in negative, and at the same time not holding on to a hopeless trade. Nerves of steel and not be tempted to make trading calls hastily, but at the same time mentally sensitive enough to see.
But I will get there and that for sure.
I dont know what Im going to write on my next chapter. I dont mind answering posts if you have any questions on each chapter. Keep coming back. If I think I have something to share that might help someone then I will add to it.
Until then, Go keep looking at your charts!
